In the book "The Way It Is," there is a reflection by Ajahn Sumedho about how we tend to "want the world to align itself with [our] dreams and ideals and, when it doesn't, [we] don't want it anymore. But rather than make things the way [we] want them, the Buddha way is to notice the way things are. And it's a great relief when [we] accept the way it is, even if it's not very nice; because the only real misery is not wanting it to be like that."